A Guide for Women Healing from Domestic Violence

A few years ago, eager to dive into the business world, I sought the help of a large company that boasted an impressive array of specialists and a wealth of resources. Their sales pitch was compelling, and their track record seemed to support their claims of expertise. I thought I had found the best Christian life coach for me. As someone with a creative background and no family history of entrepreneurship, I felt I needed all the guidance I could get.

However, despite their promises and impressive library of information on various business aspects, I quickly realized this company wasn’t the right fit for me. Unfortunately, I had already committed to a hefty contract, learning a valuable but expensive lesson about the importance of due diligence.

Since then, I’ve found a fantastic coach who understands my needs and has helped me far more than that large company ever did. She’s a small business owner herself, which gives her valuable insights and a relatable perspective.

Ultimately, my experience taught me the importance of taking the time to find the best Christian life coach. Don’t rush into a decision. Instead, utilize free discovery calls to get a feel for their personality and approach. Trust your gut and seek God’s guidance in finding the perfect fit for your journey.

Why Choose a Christian Life Coach: 

• Faith-based support: A Christian life coach can provide a unique blend of spiritual guidance and practical tools to help you deal with trauma. They can help you rediscover your faith and find strength in God’s word as you navigate the challenges of recovery.  
• Understanding: A Christian life coach specializing in domestic violence understands the complexities of your experience. They can offer empathy, compassion, and a safe space for you to process your emotions and rebuild your self-worth. 
• Personalized Guidance: A Christian life coach can also create a tailor approach to your specific needs and goals. They can help you develop coping mechanisms, set healthy boundaries, and create a personalized plan for your healing journey. 

Some key factors to Consider: 

1. Specialization: Look for a Christian life coach who explicitly focuses on helping women who have experienced domestic violence. This ensures they have the expertise and experience to address your unique challenges and needs. 
2. Experience: Consider the coach’s experience in the field. How long have they been working with women who have survived domestic violence? Do they have testimonials or case studies that demonstrate their success in helping others? 
3. Credentials and Training: While not always essential, relevant certifications can indicate a coach’s commitment to professional development and their adherence to ethical standards. Look for coaches with training in trauma-informed care or specific modalities that resonate with you. 
4. Approach and Style: Does the coach’s approach align with your personality and preferences? Some coaches are more directive, while others take a gentler, more nurturing approach. Consider whether you prefer individual coaching, group coaching, or a combination of both. 
5. Values Alignment: As a Christian woman, it’s essential to choose a coach whose faith-based coaching values align with your own. This ensures a deeper connection and allows for spiritual integration into your healing journey. 
6. Connection: Trust your intuition. Do you feel comfortable and safe with this coach? Do you feel heard and understood? A strong connection with your coach is crucial for building trust and fostering a successful coaching relationship. 

Disclaimer: This blog is dedicated to the survivors of domestic violence. It does not provide resources or advice for leaving an abusive situation. If you are in immediate danger or need help escaping, please reach out to National Domestic Abuse Hotline.

Benefits of having a Christian Life Coach: 

1. Safe and Sacred Space: A Christian life coach offers a confidential, non-judgmental environment where women can share their experiences and emotions freely, without fear of condemnation or re-traumatization. 
2. Spiritual Healing: Through prayer, scripture, and faith-based practices, a Christian coach can help women reconnect with their spirituality, find comfort in God’s love, and rediscover their identity in Christ. 
3. Trauma-Informed Support: Coaches specializing in this area understand the unique challenges and triggers faced by trauma survivors, ensuring a sensitive and empowering approach to healing. 
4. Rebuilding Self-Worth: Domestic violence often shatters a woman’s self-esteem. A Christian coach can help rebuild self-worth by affirming God’s unconditional love and guiding clients to recognize their inherent value and strength. 
5. Developing Healthy Boundaries: Trauma survivors often struggle with setting boundaries. A coach can teach effective communication skills and empower women to protect themselves from future harm. 
6. Processing Grief and Loss: Abuse often involves the loss of trust, safety, and sometimes even loved ones. A Christian coach can help clients process these complex emotions and find healthy ways to grieve. 
7. Discovering Purpose and Meaning: After experiencing trauma, it’s common to feel lost or unsure of one’s purpose. A coach can guide clients to uncover their God-given gifts and passions, empowering them to create a fulfilling life. 
8. Finding Forgiveness: Forgiveness can be a difficult but essential part of healing. A Christian coach can offer biblical guidance and support as clients navigate this process, whether forgiving their abuser or themselves. 
9. Developing Resilience: Coaches equip women with coping mechanisms, stress management techniques, and spiritual practices to build resilience and navigate future challenges with strength and faith. 
10. Building Healthy Relationships: A Christian coach can guide women to create healthy relationships based on mutual respect, trust, and love, fostering a sense of community and belonging. 

Are you ready to take the next step in your healing journey? I invite you to schedule a complimentary discovery call with me. We’ll discuss your specific needs, explore how Christian life coaching can support you, and determine if we’re the right fit for one another. 

Kristyn l Cruz